Men and women are not equal and will never be equal. The society has a unique set of unwritten regulations for both genders. This is one of the most open and guarded secrets of humankind. Women have always fought for their place in the community. The gender scale has always been in favour of the male gender. However, the situation has never been the same, and it keeps fluctuating.
There is no much change in the social system finally. The overall situation has improved significantly in the past century or so. But the gap somehow keeps becoming wider. Small reformations are made to keep the people happy, but care is taken to avoid greediness. We applaud and praise women achievers as it is a big feat in the community.
The pathway for reaching the finish line is systematically uneven. However, we tend to conveniently ignore the struggles of the women in the lower half of the pyramid. There is inequality in every aspect right from payscale to respect. Women are expected to fulfil their responsibilities in their homes and offices. Of course, a single day dedicated to them compensates all their troubles.
Abuse and violence against women come in various forms. However, people are blind to the issue and play the victims. Why not blame women when they are the scapegoats? Why give then respect when mistreating them is so much fun? This is the state of women in our community.
This is not an accusation against everyone. But it is an accusation against people who mistreat women and most importantly people who let it happen. Education has provided women with the mechanism to defend themselves and the perpetrators to enhance their skills. The people who abuse women fall under both categories, and it is not right to blame education.
We are fighting for empowerment and also struggling to establish basic safety standards. In any crime against women, we question the credibility of the victim. We try to find loopholes by dissecting her character. I realise that like everything, the problem starts at home. The typical household infuses inequality right from a young age.
We teach our daughters to dress appropriately and to stay indoors after dark. We tell them to be aware of the boogeyman. But we fail to realise that the boogeyman is someone’s son who was never taught to respect women. Do we teach our sons to treat women with respect and compassion? We expect women to be patient at all times. We instil the message that would stay polite even when they are right.
We make too many fundamental mistakes and blame society. Why do we expect women to accept injustice? Why do some freaks (word censored for online norms) take advantage of the system and hurt her? Freelancers and writers (I should mention procrastinating writers for the sake of SEO) face many forms of injustice and abuse. If you ask me how to handle it, I don’t have the answer (I would be happy to take suggestions though).
But I do know that we need not accept it for the sake of our profession. Sometimes, people do not realise that this is a form of abuse and think that it is a birthright since they have the power to award a project. We do not realise that the problems lie in the way we grew up and ask the same question in different forms. Why do we expect women to accept injustice? Let me know your thoughts, and I do hope that this is not my last post.